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Let It Be Easy


Let’s go through some of the lies that we tell ourselves, shall we?


Lie #1: Life is inherently hard.

Lie #2: If you don’t work hard, you won’t achieve anything.

Lie #3: Hardship and struggle build character.

Lie #4: If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.

Lie #5: Nothing of value comes easy.


There are tons more, but let’s unpack these.


Lie #1: Life is inherently hard.


Is life actually inherently hard? It is if you believe it is. Do some people get dealt a harder hand than others? Sure. Are they absolutely resigned to a life of destitution because of it? Only if they believe they are. Do you see where I’m going with this? Life is as easy or as hard as you choose to make it. For sure there are certain circumstances that can seem hard to deal with. But if we realize that what comes into our lives is in some way a reflection of something going on inside of us, then it will be easier to start to change our perspective to something that feels better.


I’m not going to say that everything always seems within our control. After all, we don’t live in isolation and so we must take other people into consideration when we discuss these things. No, we cannot control other people and what they may bring into our lives. But we can control how we respond to other people, and then also how we feel about ourselves, which can uplift the types of circumstances that we manifest into our own lives based on how we choose to shift our energy. If we don’t like drama, we don’t have to play the game. We can choose to approach things with a more grounded mindset. If we find people difficult, we can choose to allow them the space they need to be how they want to be and stop attaching our personal expectations of them to our own happiness. I am not saying that it always feels easy to reframe things in such a way, but life can feel a lot easier when we focus on our own energy rather than trying to change the energy of those around us.


Lie #2: If you don’t work hard, you won’t achieve anything.


Is hard work really a prerequisite for success? If so, who says? Letting your life be easy doesn’t mean never taking action or making an effort. But it does mean being able to enjoy what you do enough that it doesn’t feel like a chore to you. There is always a way. You do not have to do anything that you don’t truly want to do. The problem is, many of us simply don’t want to give up control, so we try to do everything by ourselves, which creates resentment and exhaustion.


You might now say, “Well, not everyone is privileged enough to hire things out.” True. But if we are really being honest with ourselves, most times it is the fear of not being able to follow our dreams that causes us to not follow our dreams. It is the belief that we must be “practical” and “realistic” that causes us to put our desires on the backburner.


One meaningful way to reframe doing things that we don’t want to do is to tell ourselves not that we “have to” do them, but that we “get to” do them. By reframing our perspective in this way, we suddenly feel like we have a choice. And if we are choosing to do something, rather than feeling like it’s an obligation, the energy around it will shift and it will create more space to allow us to actually be able to do what floats our boat the most. When you release the resistance, that’s when miracles can and do happen.


Lie #3: Hardship and struggle build character.


Hardship and struggle may build character in that they can build resilience and determination. But that is not the only way to do so. Making hardship into a badge of honor is actually not the best way to achieve a happy life. That’s because if we make ourselves believe that struggle is good, even if we don’t like it, we will be more likely to attract more struggle into our lives. Instead, we need to acknowledge what we’ve created, while at the same time acknowledging that we can also choose to create something else. We need to realize that we can build our character through implementing our self-worth and our superpowers of creation. We can build our character by becoming bad-ass manifestors of the best kind. Struggle can be a good teacher, sure, but an even better teacher is one that gives you room to shine. Think of it this way. Imagine you’re at school and you have two teachers. One teacher kicks you every time you enter the room and makes fun of you the entire time you’re there. The other teacher lifts your spirits, tells you you’re great, and helps nurture your gifts so that you can go out into the world feeling empowered and strong. Both teachers can teach you something through their actions, but I am pretty sure that we would all prefer one over the other (I’ll let you guess which one).


Lie #4: If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.


Who the hell came up with this one? Must have been the pessimist of all pessimists. But you know what? If it looks “too good to be true,” it actually IS true, you just refuse to believe it, or maybe you don't believe you deserve for it to be that good. What makes something "too good to be true" is our belief that the other shoe might drop at any moment. But why can’t we just let things be good when they’re good? Why do we assume that everything is a scam? Can it not also be possible that the universe is THAT generous to provide us with everything our heart desires, and then some? When we realize that we are the ones creating our own reality, we will realize that if we choose to make it good, and make the good last, it will. If we believe that we are deserving of living a perpetually happy life, we will. I’m not saying that everything will be “perfect” all of the time, but perfection is a definition that we determine for ourselves anyway. There is no one universal meaning. So, we can reframe that too. Remember, it is not what happens but how we respond to what happens that makes something feel a certain way to us. And while it may not always feel easy, because we are, in fact, human, we can at least try to reframe our perspectives more and more to the positive side so that we create a string of really great moments that make up a life well lived.


Lie #5: Nothing of value comes easy.


This is what “they” say, yeah? Well, let's start with the concept of value. What do you value? After all, value is subjective, right? If you don’t know how to ride a bike, would a new bicycle hold any value for you? If you don’t like eating Mexican food, would it matter if a 5-star Mexican restaurant opened near your house? Now, if you do like Mexican food and a 5-star Mexican restaurant does open near your house, would you then say that it was hard to come by? You value it and it was easy to manifest. See my point?


Everything that you value CAN come easy. All you need to do is value it and believe that it is already yours. When something already belongs to you, it’s not going anywhere. Only you could chase it away with your doubt but, otherwise, it will always be there waiting for you to accept and receive it. The thing that determines how easy or hard something comes to you is not a saying, but an attitude. If you believe that everything is going to be a struggle to receive, then you will create struggle to receive it. If you believe that everything you love and enjoy is a breeze to get, THAT will be your truth. I cannot bring this point home any stronger: Your beliefs create your reality. What you believe is true for you, will be true for you, always! You are the one deciding with what difficulty or ease your life manifests for you. But if you refuse to see it that way, unfortunately you will be a victim of circumstance, instead of the conscious creator of your own experience. Nothing is inherently hard or easy. It is just a matter of perspective and expectation. You get what you expect. That’s pretty much the gist of it.


So, what does letting it be easy really mean? It means letting go of the concept of struggle and allowing things to be easy because you choose for it to be easy and expect it to be easy. It’s understanding that “easy” does not necessarily mean doing nothing. But it does mean doing everything with a sense of ease. And that is what sets you up for receiving magic.

 

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